If you saw my last post, you are somewhat familiar with my analogy between rocks hitting a windshield and the human experience of trauma. For those unfamiliar with the idea, I will provide a quick recap.
Imagine yourself driving in a car, and suddenly–out of seemingly nowhere–a rock smacks into your windshield, creating a starburst–a circular shattering. The rock is gone. You will never find it. You cannot put language to your feeling of shock at the abrupt nature of the experience itself. Over time, cracks and fissures branch out of the initial starburst.
The windshield in the analogy represents the unconscious. The moment of impact represents the traumatic event, and the cracks and fissures that develop from the initial starburst represent the psychological symptoms that develop in the wake of the traumatic event.
We all experience these things, and often, we experience them many, many times over the course of our lives. It is possible that our unconscious windshield incurs myriad starbursts, which all develop cracks, which then overlap, intersect and fuse, making it difficult to determine the origin of each. We only comprehend the discomfort of the symptoms, themselves. We seek help, or else we develop our own coping strategies, however dysfunctional, in effort to soothe the discomfort of the symptoms.
Psychoanalytic theory imagines a scenario that could – potentially – mitigate the control of self-destructive behaviors over our lives. When a windshield develops a star, one enlists the help of a repair service to address that mark, to prevent the worsening of the side effects. In the same manner, we must address the moment of trauma, in order to ease the sting of the symptoms in our lives.
I have created another video I would like to share with you, which explains these ideas in further detail. I hope you are able to internalize these ideas. My wish is that I can help others find relief from self destructive behaviors, as I work out my own alongside you.